13 rules for a kid-friendly wedding (or not)

  • January 27, 2014
  • CNN Living; Martha Stewart Editors; Jan. 11, 2014

By Martha Stewart

(CNN) -- Some people wouldn't dream of getting married without family and friends of all ages assembled around them. Others envision a more adult-oriented and elegant affair.

Whatever you decide, these etiquette guidelines from the editors of Martha Stewart Weddings will help you anticipate and politely maneuver any potential pitfalls and ensure a festive (and tantrum-free) event for all.

Decide Early

Unlike decisions about menus or music, those related to children should be handled quickly to avoid awkward questions from parents who need to make plans.

Is It Appropriate to Not Invite Children?

Yes -- especially if the wedding is in the evening or is very formal. "It may be more of a challenge to restrict children during a daytime or casual wedding without people feeling offended," says Joyce Scardina Becker, a San Francisco-based wedding designer and planner who teaches wedding and event etiquette at ÂãÁÄÖ±²¥, East Bay.